The Untold Story behind the Cebu IT Park Call Center Agent Suicide
He appeared to have planned it from the start, the cause of the death not work related, but with his personal problems. Before the incident happened he already posted his intentions and farewell messages in his Facebook account. A suicide note was also found in his pocket after he took his life and jumped to his death from the roof deck of i2 building Cebu IT Park. All these facts ruled out any foul play being involved in the incident. He also left 3 requests for his Superior(s) which was said to have been carried out already.
We will take a step back and try to understand how this happened basing on the information we’ve gathered. He attended college in University of San Carlos and was known to be a jolly person, but people who know him way back describe him as one who gets very passionate when he’s in love. Looking back last June 10, 2014, he posted in his Facebook status thanking a few people for their advice. He also posted that it prevented the other guy getting out of control with hashtags #MuragBeginner #Overwhelmed #OutofControl. This can be viewed 2 ways. First is that he is literally referring to another guy. Second is that he is figuratively referring to himself almost getting out of control. The hash tags he used also suggests that he felt like a beginner in the situation he’s in and that he’s overwhelmed and at times getting out of control.
If we try to piece this with the information we’ve gathered, in which he was in a relationship with Mrs. Helen Grace Binondo Gonzaga for 2-3 months. Mrs. Gonzaga is from the same Company(Convergys) and Account(Microsoft). Then we can conclude that they were already in a relationship by that time. Last August 13, 2014, 3 days before he committed suicide. He was seen in a popular videoke bar in Mabolo confiding with friends and acquaintances regarding his alleged troubles and heartaches regarding his relationship with Mrs. Gonzaga. On that same day he was asking questions regarding the security in the roof deck of the building. In his last posts, he indicated “I love you all, most specially to Mrs. Helen Grace Binondo Gonzaga also known as Gracee Gee in facebook, I can’t tag her cause she blocked me on facebook. Gi buwagan ko nia without any certain reason and that hurts me the most, specially seeing with other guys dancing, laughing and having fun with”. It is easy to deduce that they were not in good terms because she already blocked him in Facebook and that she ended their relationship. He further indicated in his post that the girl was linked to several guys and that he still accepted her despite all that and her troubled past.
Many people initially blamed Mrs. Gonzaga for what happened which prompted her sister Marcy Grace Binondo to speak out and defend her sister. She posted in her facebook account that her sister should not be blamed for the incident saying that her sister did not ask him to commit suicide and that her sister is allegedly receiving threats from Mr. Cadjong’s family. She further explained that her sister was badly affected by the incident and that she cannot come to work anymore. Mrs. Gonzaga is the bread winner of the family. She further adds on the same post that her sister already has 2 children and that her sister does not deserve his love. She was angered on how people are judging her sister.
Many people weighed in on the issue. Some said that whether the issues/intrigues surrounding the girl are true or not, committing suicide is a selfish act. It did not benefit anyone nor resolved the problem. In fact he left his family behind. Days before his death, he reportedly had a discussion with his superior(s) on how he can make his family’s life better. That all went to naught, given the circumstances, he could not have possibly left a huge amount of money to support his family for a long time. Others say it’s unfair to the girl, for she will forever carry the traumatic experience in her lifetime, definitely leaving a very deep scar. Most men understood how Ernie felt but maintained he should have not committed suicide. Some also pointed out if his friends were able to give him guidance and advise when it was badly needed. Some want the building administrators questioned and be held liable for the incident, citing why the employee had access to building’s roof deck when it was supposedly a restricted area.
Our position in this matter is just going back to the basics of life and creation. We do not have any right to end anyone’s life much more our own. Suicide is never the answer. In addition to the sadness, shock, trauma and guilt he left behind. He also could have injured or killed other people had there been passersby on that exact spot he landed. Considering that the spot was in the lobby of the building entrance, it puts anyone passing by in a precarious situation. We also cannot blame Mrs. Gonzaga for this incident because everyone is entitled to their own decisions and you can’t force someone to love you. If she decided to part ways with him, then he should have respected it. If he truly loved her, he would want her to be happy and let her go. It is never easy but that is the harsh reality of life, some things just don’t come with a happy ending. If the issues surrounding her happen to be true, then all the more he should have moved on and find another girl worthy of his undying love and devotion. We also cannot blame his friends because they have stuck with him through thick and thin. They were there for him when he needed people to listen and console him when he was down, sad, and when he showed signs of weakness. Could the building administrators have implemented more stringent policies to prevent the incident? Maybe… However let us be reminded that if he was already decided, he can do it any place he finds with no one to prevent him from committing the deed. He is his own man and it was purely his decision.
The objective is not to humiliate anyone or any party, but rather, to enlighten everyone to ensure this incident is not repeated. Let this be a wakeup call to everyone to have that conscious effort to reach out to whoever needs comfort, advice, understanding and solace. We all have to go back and strengthen our spiritual resolve. Drinking, crying, and sharing one’s problem and getting advices proved not enough; at the end of the day, one needs to reach out to the Almighty Creator for guidance, peace and enlightenment. May your soul rest in peace, Ernie.
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